Yes, God is male, and there is a fundamental reality based on Biblical Scripture that creates a real man. Not that there is such a thing as an artificial man. But some men don’t even resemble a man when viewed through the lens of the Bible. These men are not acting and reacting as God intended. Although God is not a man, Jesus was, so God is the ultimate role model of what a real man is and provides examples of real men throughout the Bible. And remember, if you are currently not acting like a real man, all you have to do is repent and turn away from your sin. So, let’s take a closer look at our Father God and real men to learn what a true Biblical man is all about.
Our Father God
God is love. But what does that mean? God loves us enough to provide for all our needs. He loves us enough to send His only son to die a horrible death to redeem us. Jesus is the only sacrifice sufficient for God’s sovereign requirement that only holy and perfect things enter into heaven. Because of Christ’s substitutionary sacrifice, you can enter heaven if you’re born again. Now that is love! God also loves us enough to correct us when we sin. He loves us enough to tell us what sin is via the Bible so that we know what sin is and how to avoid sinning. He loves us enough to provide patience, often waiting for years before He jerks us back into his authority. But if you continue in unrepented sin and ignore His will, He is willing to allow you to destroy yourself. This teaching method is also love. Because if a willful child refuses to learn the easy way, we must let them learn the hard way. That is true love. God is the Good Father. James 1:17.
Our Father God and Real Men
Since we now have a brief idea of who God the Father is and what a good father is, we can now look at an earthly father. So, why do I say father instead of a man? Because most real men will become a father. Not just a “baby daddy” or “sperm donor” but a father. That implies that the man leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife. Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:7, Ephesians 5:31.
A real man is a man of true Biblical love. He loves his wife and children and provides for all their needs. He loves his wife sacrificially, as Christ loved the church. Ephesians 5:25, Colossians 3:19. A real man loves his children, teaches them, and corrects them with loving-kindness and patience. Colossians 3:21. He disciplines his children so they will understand right from wrong. Proverbs 22:15. He raises and instructs his children using Scripture so they know God’s will for their lives, as well as His love, mercy, and grace. If a real man’s child is so willful that they will not repent, he should allow them to learn the hard way. Even if that hard way or tough love enables that child to end up in poverty, jail, or even dead, hopefully, the child will come to their senses before that and repent and follow God’s will for their life.
Godly Men Don’t Commit Sexual Sins
Real men, steeped in Biblical truth, don’t fornicate. Now, have I fornicated? Yes, and I’m ashamed of it and have repented and stopped. The last time I mentioned fornication to a man, he looked completely bewildered. He had no idea what fornication even meant. So, it means sex before marriage. Any sex, without regard to the method. If someone else stimulates you to the point of ejaculation, you have experienced sex. If this happens and you are not married to the woman, you are fornicating. Notice I said, woman: marriage is between one man and one woman as prescribed by God. There is no other type of marriage. If a man has sex with a man, a woman with a woman, or a person with a critter, that is also fornication. Mark 7:21-23, Romans 1:28-32, Galatians 5:19-21, 1 Corinthians 6:18 says “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”
Real men don’t commit adultery. Exodus 20:14 says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” That is straight from the ten commandments, and all moral laws, whether from the Old or New Testaments, are in force and valid today. Pretty straightforward and logical. Real men are also not: LGBTQ + anything, etcetera.
Our Father God and Real Men
We are to imitate our God. A real man is Biblically masculine, with Biblically natural affection for his wife and children. Men provide for their family’s needs as prescribed by Scripture. They love their wife with deep, sacrificial, and generous love. They love their children enough to discipline them, teach them Scripture, prepare them for life, and care for their needs, but not for all their wants. Real men are as like their heavenly Father as humanly possible. Admittedly, it’s a difficult road to travel but well worth the effort.
This article is not all-inclusive but focuses on the highlights. I hope this helps someone, but I’m also sure it will anger others. My intent is to teach, not anger anyone. If you are a biological man, I’m suggesting that you should also strive to be a Biblical man. Which, in my vernacular, is a Real Man.
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